Rinpoche's advice on the discussion 

- Relate to the essentials, one's priorities not the details. 
- In dialogue, Rinpoche suggests there could be a questioner, an answerer and an observer. 
- Dialogue is not a competition - we are sharing so that everyone deepens their knowledge and ability to apply the Dharma to their lives. 
- After clarification of the topic, the dyad works together to "check the validity of the topic out", maybe then mixing their knowledge and experience with their mind stream. 
- The questioner helps by deepening the contemplation of the topic, gentle probing, opening the discussion when answers get "pat" or stuck; also, by encouraging examples, applicability to one's life or by asking for divisions or amplification of the topic, and finally helping the answerer to stick to the topic.